THE CAR CRASH

A father and his son sit inside a restaurant, finishing up their meal.
They look out to see the beginnings of a big storm.
 Before they’re able to pay and leave, the storm is in full motion.
They decide to brave the weather and try to get home.

The storm is blinding. It’s difficult to see anything past the torrential downpour.
 They decide its best to pull over. Just before they’re able to, they crash.
Both of them are in terrible condition. Due to the weather, hospitals in the area are overwhelmed by incoming patients. Upon finding the pair, paramedics decide that the father will be taken to a closer hospital, as his injuries are much more severe, and the son will be transported to another hospital with resources.

That hospital is twenty miles away. The son is prepped for emergency surgery when he is brought to the hospital. The doctor slated to perform the surgery lays eyes on the young man and says, “I can’t operate on him. He is my son.” Who is the doctor? Whoever communicates the riddle makes it known that there’s no trick at play here. The answer is simple. They also freely provide any asked for background information. In the case of this riddle, there’s no unique upbringing or family secrets. There’s nothing shocking.
The answer really is straightforward. Try answering the riddle before reading on,
 because the rest of this post will give the answer away. The proposed reason for the common difficulty in solving this riddle is implicit bias. Essentially, through social conditioning, our minds have created a certain default image of what constitutes a doctor.
This particular exercise exposes that bias. The Kirwan Institute at Ohio State
 The university defines implicit bias as “the attitudes or stereotypes that affect our understanding, actions, and decisions in an unconscious manner. These biases, which
 encompass both favorable and unfavorable assessments, are activated involuntarily and
 without an individual’s awareness
 or intentional control.” While the presence of biases is quite normal, these unconscious calculations can cause us to make faulty evaluations. Since these biases exist outside of our conscious awareness, they’re often challenging to address. Left unchecked, however,
they can perpetuate certain toxic, stereotypical attitudes about the world. When I first heard the riddle, I racked my brain for the answer only to come up with the most unlikely identities for the doctor. Even though I received all the answers to the follow-up questions
 I asked,
I still couldn’t solve it. What probably stung me the most is that, as a feminist, the answer to this should have been a no-brainer. I suppose the riddle did its job. It exposed my own internal bias. Did you figure it out yet? The doctor is his mother. 

There Were Honey Bees - Before Children Became Kids -

"When I was little there wasn't a single kid in the world, seriously, nary a one, save for goat offspring"!

We often find that simply being in the moment, is enough to recharge our spiritual batteries. It makes me mindful of what I value in life, the world my mom gave me. When we were little, it was a time, when our moms were our first teachers, in our first school, the homeschool.

She never followed any proper homeschool curriculum, she just subtly introduced me to new objects, tastes, and feelings, and soon I experienced what I can perhaps call a kind of mental home improvement, albeit my own perception of what this special place called home was.

My closest and dearest friend, granny Ena, broadened my horizon immeasurably. In my baby years, she didn't live with us, but she was always there somehow when I later slept over at her house, a converted, tram similar to the ones plying the hilly roads of San Francisco, Her house made me feel safe from all harm, whenever I was allowed to spend a weekend at her home, it was like a homecoming for me.

As I grew older my "homeland' grew larger with the inclusion of the village school, the world outside of my homeland, the world of my huge collie dog Major, the few chickens, my cousin Pixie, my adoptive granddad David, my dad was the only one who called him uncle David, everyone else called him daddy, He smelled of Old Spice and pipe tobacco he always had a tasty chunk of beef biltong, (a kind of jerky) for me.

He would slice into thin strips, ritualistically almost, using his trusted black-handled Joseph Rodgers pocket knife, offering me a slice, then carving himself a strip, and repeating the routine until it was all gone. The knife had many uses, one of them was his use of it as a scraping tool, to clean out the compacted ash from his smoking pipe bowl.
Suddenly, with the advent of school the home decor changed, there were many more objects added, there was my favorite teacher, Mrs. Strangman, she introduced me to the story of my favorite creatures in the whole world, the incredible honey bee.

To this day, her story about the unassuming honey bee, and how she worked every day, from dawn to dusk, carrying the precious drops of nectar back to the hive, having collected, it drop, by drop and from dozens of flowers, she would do so, tirelessly, hour by hour, to the wildflower patch and back to the hive she flew, until one evening just before dusk, her little heart just stopped beating, in mid-flight, somewhere over a meadow or a pond, into which her tiny exhausted body dropped slowly downward on the wings of a spring evening breeze after a hot day, and in her death, her, spent little body providing a meal for a hungry carp.
I can still hear Mrs. Strangman's lilting voice, relating to me, that bitter-sweet story, like it was just yesterday. Once a month she brought me a jar of the tastiest honey in the whole world, wholesome and unadulterated. Her husband uncle Paul Strangman was a bee-keeper.

In those days before children became kids, we called all senior males uncle and the senior ladies, we called aunt. Later on our family moved to another suburb and I had to say goodbye to the chickens and granddad David's farm, my dad, I called him chum, after my mom's pet name for him.
Those were the days when the only Homer, was a mythological Greek poet, nothing is known of Homer's life, but as author of two of ancient Greece's most important literary works - the Iliad and the Odyssey, his importance to Greek culture and also the world, can hardly be underestimated, obviously, not the fictional, patriarchal character Homer Jay Simpson, in the animated TV series, The Simpson's and his eponymous family.

Our home in harmony, was soon to change into a home in Harrison mountain, where according the writer Jim Harrison, writes in his book "In Search of Small Gods." “Death steals everything except our stories.” Although death has stolen the endearing characters in my home, only those endure the erosive elements of time.

The epic arrival of my baby brother Eugene, had elevated my concept of home exponentially, for suddenly, there was someone besides Me, Myself and I, Here was a brand new and completely unique creature.

Who knew what amazing adventures lay in store, no Huck Finn story would ever be complete without his best friend and protagonist Tom Sawyer, in tow or a "Just William", the eternally frowning and scruffy looking eleven year old boy character William Brown and his best friend Ginger, and the other two gang members, Henry and Douglas, together, calling themselves the Outlaws.

My final homeland episodes, included the two additions to my own gang of Outlaws, the first one to arrive was my youngest brother Deon our gang's financial consultant and then, a baby sister named Rene', she was destined to eventually become Dame Rene in a mythological realm of her own world called the lost kingdom of Goneawayland.

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Are You Secretly Addicted?

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"Success Secrets of the Rich & Happy" - with Ken Foster Success Coach

FREE TIPS: HOW TO WRITE SHORT HEALTH POSTS FOR PROFIT

My "Wrote For Life" article writing system, started on 19 November 2010, It was at that point that I started using this system, When you have a great idea to write about, but don't know how to start, Start writing the beginning of the story as well as the end. Then...

How to Let Go Through Love

Just imagine how motivating it would be, if you were to receive confirmation from 100 years in the future that your present efforts, however insignificant some may have appeared to be, have helped change our planet for the better?  

People who are working for the greater good often end up feeling defeated and disillusioned because they cannot see instant results from their efforts. Many start out feeling eager and inspired, wanting to make a meaningful difference, however, when nothing outwardly seems to be changing, they start to think that they aren't making any headway after all and simply give up. 

When it comes to large goals that take many years to complete, we cannot allow an apparent lack of results to stop us, especially when what we have started, has a long term goal, spanning many years. There is simply too much at stake and the consequences are way too high.

Feelings of disillusionment however, can be overcome by acting from a sense of love and also a sincere desire to make a difference, and then just letting go. What I am saying, is that "letting go", is really a means of expressing your trust in that positive difference which your positive actions and thoughts have made, even if you can't see it yet.  

Some of these changes may not be obvious for hundreds of years. We need to trust that one day, they will become obvious, and then, simply remain focused on taking those steps now, that feel right to you, rather than expecting immediate miracles. Just as the Butterfly theory, shows that even the most insignificant or mundane actions can have a huge impact further down the line. Everything you do therefore, will make a difference, you need to simply hold on to those inner expectations. 

Seeing your actions as laying an important foundation upon which growth and progress can happen later, will allow you to see your actions as a labor of love that makes you feel good about doing what you can. 

Keeping a detached and dispassionate attitude like this is thesurest way to a successful outcome regardless of how long it takes to becomeobvious.

Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness

When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward.

By Mayo Clinic staff

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance — but if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

What is forgiveness? Read on...

Forgive for Good Workshop

The workshop is led by Dr. Frederic Luskin, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project and author of Forgive for Good, published by Harper Collins. To register for the class please call (650) 498-5566.

The importance of practicing forgiveness has been extolled for centuries, but only recently has research demonstrated that forgiveness can reduce anger and depression as well as enhance hopefulness and self-efficacy.

This workshop series has four sessions of lecture and discussion interspersed with guided practice of forgiveness tools. The format is not intended as group therapy; but rather to teach self-care skills to heal old wounds and prevent new ones.

Workshop participants who complete the series will be... Read on...

Review The Master Key System Quote

You can not entertain weak, harmful, negative thoughts ten hours a day and expect to bring about beautiful, strong and harmonious conditions by ten minutes of strong, positive, creative thought

Charles Haanel

Extreme Forgiveness Medicine : How Could You Possibly Heal What You Don't Feel?

Extreme Forgiveness Medicine : How Could You Possibly Heal What You Don't Feel?: From: http://www.colintipping.com/blog/ if you are not willing to open up to the full range of your feelings. The goal is to allow yours...

How Could You Possibly Heal What You Don't Feel?

From:http://www.colintipping.com/blog/

if you are not willing to open up to the full range of your feelings. The goal is to allow yourself to feel all your feelings no matter what they are. Here’s a good 4-point rule that will help you become more in touch with your feelings.

1. Recognize the Feeling
See if you can put a name to what it is you are feeling. Ask yourself this simple question: “Am I mad, sad, glad or afraid?” At least that will put you in the ball park of what you might be feeling.

2. Accept the Feeling
Be OK with the feeling and love yourself for having it. Do not judge it, especially if you would normally think of it as being ‘bad’ or negative. Again, there is no such thing as a negative feeling. It just is.

3. Delay the Expression of It
If it is anger or something of that nature, and if you were to express it in the moment would cause problems, delay expressing it until it is safe to do so. But don’t use this as an excuse for not ever expressing it.

4. Express the Feeling
Find a way to let the feelings come out through speaking it out, crying, shouting, beating cushions or whatever way you can that is safe. You might need someone who can support you in doing this.

ARE YOU DEPRESSED RIGHT NOW?

PREPARE TO CHANGE YOUR MIND IN 2.50 MINUTES!

WARNING: (First listen with your eyes closed)

to the sound track of this video, from start to finish, taking note of your imaginary visuals. 

Next watch it and compare.
Enjoy

Ronna Prince, the producer of this beautiful movie, came to a Radical Forgiveness workshop I was doing at Kripalu Center in Massachusets in 2010.  She was new to Radical Forgiveness at that  time but through it found the way to heal her childhood sexual abuse that had dogged her all her life.  This film is about  her healing journey but offers so much more that is profound and inspiring. 

What Drastic Living Strategies Will Do For You

• Relieve you of your emotional pain
• Dis-Solve all your life problems
• Give more meaning to your life
• Provide a path to happiness and peace
• Help you gain mastery over your life.
• Help you create the future you want
• Support you in awakening to the truth of who you are — living with spiritual awareness and conscious intention

Times are changing quickly. Consciousness is evolving fast.
Ride the wave with us by becoming part of, and participating in, the creation of a new paradigm.
Work first on healing yourself, raising your own vibration and coming into your own power using these Radical Living Strategies.

Is Cancer Caused By Your Suppressed Emotions?

Some psychotherapists, have the idea that people who have been sexually abused in childhood, bury these traumatic events so deeply in their subconscious that memories of what occurred by a series of intense therapy sessions.

Is It The Suppressed Memory Of It?

People who thought they had had a happy, or perhaps at least unexceptional childhood, have been urged to recover the most painful memories of abuse. Not surprisingly, this has been a most controversial issue.

The problem about these subconscious urges, is that they are unconscious. Who is to say to what degree they are present, or to what extent they are responsible a person's emotional and physical well-being?

Why Bother With Emotions:

Our thinking controls our emotions, behavior and actions. Emotions affect our physical bodies as much as our bodies affect our feelings and thinking. People who dismiss, repress, ignore or just don't vent their emotions, actually set themselves up for serious physical illness.



Emotions that are not acknowledged and released but are buried within the body are the cause of various illnesses, including cancer, arthritis,liver disease and many other types of chronic illness. Negative emotions like fear, anxiety, negativity, frustration and depression cause chemical reactions in our bodies that are vastly different from the chemicals released when we feel positive emotions such as happiness, contentment, love and acceptance.

German cancer surgeon Dr. Ryke-Geerd Hamer who had examined thousands of cancer patients with all types of cancer, had noticed that all these patients seemed to have one significant thing in common: there had been some kind of psycho-emotional conflict prior to the onset of their cancer – often a few years before - a conflict that had never been fully resolved.

Dr. Hamer included psychotherapy as a key component of the healing process and found that when the specific conflict was finally resolved, the cancer immediately stopped growing at a cellular level. He believes that cancer-prone individuals are unable to adequately share their thoughts, emotions, fears and joys with other people and calls this "psycho-emotional isolation".

These people tend to hide their sadness and grief behind a brave face, appear pleasant, and avoid any form of open conflict. According to Dr. Hamer, some people are not even aware of their emotions, and are therefore not only isolated from other people, but also from themselves.

"Chronic unforgiveness causes stress. Every time people think of their transgressor, their body responds severely. Decreasing your unforgiveness cuts down your health risk. Now, if you can forgive, that actually starts to strengthen your immune system". [Dr. Everett Worthington, Jr., Psychology Professor, Virginia Commonwealth University]
 "The program's preliminary work suggests that forgiveness lowered the stress hormone cortisol that in turn affects the immune system, but only when the patients forgave the ones they blamed".

[University of Maryland - Institute of Human Virology]

"Forgiveness could boost the immune system by reducing the production of the stress hormone cortisol" [Endocrinologist Dr. Bruce McEwen, Rockefeller University - New York]

"When you hold onto the bitterness for years, it stops you from living your life fully. As it turns out, it wears out your immune system and hurts your heart" [Stanford University Center for Research in Disease Prevention]

Research Links Cancer With Repressed, Unresolved Emotions

A group of researchers at Stanford University in California recently found that women who repressed their emotions were more likely to show disruptions in the normal balance of the stress hormone, cortisol, compared with those who did not. Several studies have shown that the unbalanced cortisol fluctuations can actually predict early death in women with breast cancer that has spread to other areas of the body.

"People who have repressive styles are more prone to illness, particularly [immune-system related] diseases, such as rheumatoid arthritis, liver disease, infections, and cancers. The concept is of unexpressed anger. If one doesn't let it out, that could have adverse consequences." [Dr. George Solomon, professor of psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences at University of California Los Angeles]

"Extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients who were given a detailed psychological interview and self-administered questionnaire. Repressing anger magnified exposure to physiological stress, thereby increasing the risk of cancer" [Journal of Psychosomatic Research]

"Extremely low anger scores have been noted in numerous studies of patients with cancer. Such low scores suggest suppression, repression, or restraint of anger. There is evidence to show that suppressed anger can be a precursor to the development of cancer, and also a factor in its progression after diagnosis." [Cancer Nursing - International Journal]

"When you hold onto the bitterness for years, it stops you from living your life fully. As it turns out, it wears out your immune system and hurts your heart" [Stanford University Center for Research in Disease Prevention]

"Those who received forgiveness training showed improvements in the blood flow to their hearts" [University of Wisconsin - Research Dept.]

So, how do we set the healing process in motion?

These videos are dedicated to just that issue, In my following posts I will offer further functional information which you can readily apply in your own life directly.

DO REPRESSED EMOTIONS CAUSE CANCER?

KARL JUNG'S SHADOW EMOTIONS

CANCER AND FOODS?

THE DOCTOR WHO CURES CANCER

PRE-PROGRAMED FOR CANCER?

THE 9TH WAVE?

A NEW APPROACH TO BREAST CANCER.

Hello and Welcome.  I’m Andre Hartslief.   

I’m delighted you’re visiting my website.  It tells me that you are very likely a person who is awake spiritually – or at least ready to awaken.  And, like a lot of people you’ve doubtless had a lot of emotional challenges to deal with along the way  —  relationship issues, career problems, family feuds, and all sorts of dramas in which things like betrayal, abandonment, abuse, and disrespect showed up. And I bet at least one of them has become a repeating pattern in your life, right?

Pain and suffering:  It seems to be part of the deal, doesn’t it? Maybe so,  but now you’re looking for a new way to move ahead, leaving your victim stories behind and aiming to live on a higher vibration; happier and more liberated. 

Believe me, I’m rooting for you – wanting this to happen for you just as much as you do, and I think I’ve created a way for it to occur.  

But, there’s a lot more than just tea on the Corner Cafe’s menu to get you coming back, time and time again. First of all, you’ll find in the café the full range of time tested tools that our existing members have had exclusive use of up to now. You’ll see all those listed below. 

 , a cuppa tea will give a you lift and make you feel good for a while,  but it won’t do much for your pain and suffering or solve your problems will it?

 The more people we have, like you, coming together in community, the bigger our contribution will be towards shifting the consciousness of the planet in the direction of Oneness.  Isn’t that what we all want?

But the truth is, in this moment, it’s all about you, and I’m rooting for you.  It has to work for you first.  You must get what you need.  As you heal, grow and learn to be all that you can be, then and only then, will your energy radiate out to the rest of the world.  

So, I’d love to have you join our online community – stopping by often.

Please watch this video trailer which will show you more of what I am on about.